[sfosyd]

Hello,

My wife moved out of our home about three months ago, from a big city to a tiny little town about 300 miles away from here, back in with her parents. We have been in contact via e-mail only but emailing about a lot of emotional stuff and things seemed to be going pretty well. We have not seen each other or spoken on the phone but she did send me a nice Christmas gift.

I have used this time to work on myself reading every self help book that I can and seeing a threapist. I have realized that I was controlling and subject to angry outbursts. She did me a huge favor by leaving me, and forcing me to deal with these issues.

My wife has no expenses since she is living with her parents and she also has no job but has indicated she is looking for one. When she left me, she also left her job so I immediately put her on my health insurance and started sending her $1,000 a month. I also paid entirely for her move and paid off some minor debt for her (even though I didn't know she was leaving) which was over $3,500. She has ignored my emails asking about a legal separation agreement.

Recently, she has indicated that she wants to start dating other people to "know that she truly wants to come back to me". It also seems to me that she is spending a lot of time going out to bars and dancing which she is always telling me about and all the guys that are buying her drinks at those places. This is a complete 180 from before.

Based on this information, do people think that I should continue sending her money? I did already indicate a while back that I would send her money for January but she has made many false promises to me in terms of contacting me. I am not sure what do; I really feel that she wants to "live the single life" but wants the benefits of marriage.

Any advice at all is appreciated.

Thanks