I'm dating a married man

Angelica

I'm 30, married with kids. Very unhappy in my marriage (with no obvious reason since my husband is a great guy)
I started to look for passion and accidentally got into relationship with the married man. He said that he has no passion in his life. His wife is nice but he doesn't love her. At first it was convenient. You know for sure that it will be discreet. Both of us are not interested in any complications. I knew its not going anywhere but I wanted the excitement, adventure and passion.
But then I started to be involved emotionally and I felt in love. He doesn't share the same feelings toward me and made it clear that his family is the first priority for him. I'm a beautiful woman, independent, smart and sexy. He is much older then me. Yet I'm trying to impose myself on him. Feel upset if he doesn’t contact me, I invite him over etc. It's a first time in my life that I'm not a queen in the relationship and man doesn't worship me. I know it's disrespectful toward myself and very disturbing. But I feel a deep pain when I think that I need to let him go.
I never told him what I feel because it will scare him out. I think I want two different advises: first, how to get out of this without much pain. And second, maybe there is a way to make him fall in love with me, to keep him?