[DefBringer]

For the past month or so I've been dating a girl I get along well with. She's one of those people you feel comfortable talking to on the phone forever and not get bored. All seems to be well except she does not seem to be warming up much.

After a month, I start to feel affection for a partner and want to do things like put my arm around her, hold her hand...but only when it feels natural. With her it feels natural. However, she is not affectionate at all. She says she likes to be held but her body language says otherwise. It's like she stiffens up. When she kisses it almost seems forced, hesitant.

Without getting too specific, on 2 seperate occassions I have performed a certain sexual act that gives her pleasure. She has never done anything in return despite the fact she proclaims herself to be very sexual (I believe this after seeing her box of toys and handcuffs that she proudly showed me). I'm not one of those guys who thinks "well I gotta get mine!" but I honestly think that if she does not feel compelled to return my affection, she's not feeling the connection I am.

I have never brought this up with her, but she has apologized for it. "Sorry I'm being so stupid, I'm just in a transitional period" she said. I asked her what she meant by a transitional period and she told me she ended a 7 month relationship in early September. She says she doesn't want to make me a rebound for her and that is why she is hesitant to get physical (isn't she already physical?).

I'm wanting to pull the plug on this relationship because I'm not convinced it's going anywhere but I wanted to see what your reaction was to this. One of the few positive signs was that she did take her online dating personal down after she learned I had taken my down.