[roomie]

Help! I'm at my wits end. My wife has very little interest in intimacy and rarely shows effection. To paint the picture,we are in our early 30's, we have a very large, mixed family, My wife and I have been married for 7 years. We've had our problems, but we're still together and love each other, and are trying to work things out. She doesn't like sex. Hasn't liked sex since the birth of our son 5 years ago. she would give it up to me ONLY because I wanted it. Which is fine for her. Me, that's not working. Getting it under an emotionless state was better than nothing. I want it worse than I ever have in my life. I want to be supportive of her, but I end up angry due to total lack of any kind of attention. The lacking is more than just sex. My wife will basically never give a compliment, while I often let her know, that she looks good in what she's wearing or her hair looks nice or whatever. She will never just come up and give a hug or a aqueeze of the hand or a kiss, while I do. And our sex life? Twice a month is about where we are. I know we cant expect to be like a couple without kids and complications, but we could and should be doing better than we are and its really starting to bother me. I try to suggest things showering together, go to bed early (she then says lets just have a cuddle) she is not interested. Foreplay is really hard work it just does not flow I get frustrated at her lack of knowledge on intimacy & trying to satisfy me. She does not like to touch me down below - oral is out of the question. If I try to kiss her she at times turns away - I view it as rejection. I have had relationships in the past all of which were very satisfying. My self image and confidence are suffering, but she thinks Im being silly. Any ideas????. I don't know how to deal with my feelings. I don't understand my feelings. I have become a pervert and I don't like it. What can I do?