[Guinevere04]

I guess our situations are very much alike then. We have been through a lot in the last seven years with his ex-wife, from losing a house and having no where to live, him losing his job twice with a company that he has been with for 14 years. He got his job back both times but it took 10 months the last time and it was the day before Thanksgiving when he was fired the second time and I was pregnant. he didn't want to find another job because the union kept telling him they were going to get his job back for him. We have been though a custody battle to try and get custody of his 10 year old daughter and thankfully we at least got joint custody. His daughter and I were in a terribly wreck over a year ago and she got a bad scar on her face and had to have plastic surgery and her mother keeps threatening to sue me. He has lost 3 grandparents since we have been together. My sister and her husband are going through a nasty divorce and my brother-in-law keeps trying to put us in the middle and getting my husband to take his side. So it constantly one thing after another. I still think his ex-wife is the worst part of our life. She will not leave us alone and is constantly stirring up things and making a big deal out of everything, when we do everything we can for their child. She has nothing to complain about. Anyway, I feel like outside forces have really done our marriage in. We have counseling tonight and I think I am going to ask for a separation. I don't know exactly what we will do because I don't feel right about either one of us leaving the house.