[wryterlady33]

When I met my husband four years ago, I knew he wasn't perfect but he seemed to be a good person deep down. As our relationship progressed I accepted the fact that he had a little bit of a temper and I thought I could work around it. (As I was used to temperamental relationships both of my parents were like this.) Just two years after meeting him we got married. Now we are approaching our 2nd anniversary and I'm torn. His temper has gotten out of control. I cook, clean and work full-time. He criticizes my cooking and my ability to keep a clean house. He complains that I am incapable of learning how to do anything right. If something goes wrong he blames me. I had some cavaties filled for the first time in my life this year and it was a terrible experience...instead of comforting me he told me that I was an idiot for chosing a bad dentist. He calls me "pudgy" and says it is a cute name that he is being sentimental. I continually tell him that pudgy means fat. And let me say that I am not a heavy woman. I'm 5'8 and weigh 140 lbs. I like being healthy and I want to work out, but I'm exhausting by trying to live up to his expectations of me. The hard part of all of this is that he can be the sweetest husband in the entire world and the next second "snap" and tell me to get out of his face because he is angry with me. He isn't the same person he was when we first met...and it makes me incredibly sad. He works from home and refuses to go out anywhere or to make any friends. When we do go out somewhere he is nervous and uneasy. Why do I want our relationship to work out? Is there something wrong with me??? Any advice is very much appreciated.