[dubberfromCT]

Its been a month since my girlfirend or 2.5 years and I broke up. I kinda get the message that the relationship was holding her back from hanging out with other friends and whatnot. She also told me that she didnt love me anymore but wants to be friends. I attribute this to the relationship getting a little stale and boring, kinda like a relationship rut. She said she would call me in a couple weeks after the breakup. Well a month came by and she still hadnt called. So finally i casually called her today and she said she had been thinking about me and we had a great convorsation for about 45 min and then i ended it by saying it was time to get something to eat. This is kind of a difficult time for her in her life. I know that there are no other guys involved here and she even told me that she just doesnt want a relationship right now. I am confident that she is telling the truth.

I very much want to start over with this girl. How can i rebuild the intamacy that we once had? How can I be a boyfirend that does not hold her back? I am guessing i just have to wait it out a little more and see how things go. She is feeling relived that she is not in a relationship right now but i see a relationship in the opposite way, like a source of comfort. Why cant she see it my way? Its so confusing.