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Originally Posted by neveragain2493

I have a guy friend who people have constantly defined as gay. He does like girls. However, since the beginning of this year, he has been attracted to guys. He will say something like, "That guy is so hot", or, "I wanna make out with him so badly". Since January, he has made out with two or three guys that I know of and has talked about doing more with some guys.

He swears up and down he still likes girls and that he has to have romantic feelings for someone to be bisexual. I told him that bisexual was defined as a general attraction to both sexes, but he denies it completely. I believe he is in denial and fear of not being accepted.

Help?

Right, except it is a 'sexual' rather than 'general' attraction to both sexes.

You can actually express it very simply in terms of propositional logic:

b = a + g

(where b = bisexuality, a = androphilia, and g = gynophilia)

Whereas heterosexuality would be:

he = xx + a OR xy + g

(where he = heterosexuality. xx = female, and xy = male)

Homosexuality:

ho = xx + g OR xy + a

(where ho = homosexuality)

That's it: its that simple. People who fit one formula and yet claim that they fit another are either a) confused, or b) deliberately trying to avoid the stigma of some label they don't like. This is why I think its such nonsense, for example, for women to say things like: "I'm totally straight but I would totally sleep with girl x." If you are attracted enough to people of both genders to want to engage in sexual activities with them (and I don't mean just what is typically defined as 'the sex act'), then you are bisexual. Aside from wanting to avoid this label, I think where a lot of people make a mistake is that they think they have to be just as attracted to girls as they are guys, or vice versa, but there is nothing in the definition of bisexuality that requires a 50/50 split in the intensity of sexual attraction to individuals of one gender vs another.

the research and experts say that everyone eventually prefers one sex over the other so there really is no such thing as true bisexuality.

I am skeptical. Cite your evidence -- one quality paper will do.