[timbo1]

Originally Posted by 2sunny

something that keeps punching at me is the fact that your wife said she went NC on Thursday with her OM and didn't even bother to tell you for several days.

i swear, i would bet money that it was the OM who initiated the NC. if she had started the NC and been happy for the progress it might mean to your M - then she would have told you immediately, instead she waited for you to even bring it up. grrrrr makes me think OM started NC and she was hoping it wouldn't last that's why she didn't tell you, also means that she isn't respecting the NC for you, but also for his wishes as well if he was the one asking.

maybe the OM dumped her and that's why she's not too happy to be back.

i really think if she truly initiated NC she would have immediately told you that events had changed and she intended to make the marriage better... why did she wait? i think you need to be digging for the truth from her. she's not being honest.

This'll sound like I'm making excuses but it wasn't really that long.

She spoke to the OM and initiated NC late on Thursday night. I was on a night shift by then and by the time I came home on the Friday morning my wife had already left for work.
Friday evening we met up out in town with some friends for dinner and then first thing Saturday morning we had our chat and she told me about the NC.

I see your points but I think it was my wife who initiated NC, she had told her friend and sister a couple of days before that she knew that was what she needed to do to give her and I a chance.