Maybe you, mickleb and soheartbroken are right about needing to go NC, I just wrote another post about all the conflicting advice I get about this, some of my real life friends think NC would be a wrong move, and a couple of people on LS, because the reason was neglect, so if there was any hope for us then further neglect wouldn't help. I just don't know, but I do think that if there is no sign of him wanting to try again by Xmas then I will think again about total NC, for now it's LC (assuming that means little contact?!). I think giving up on us is hard because he has come back to me twice in the past and we had several more happy years, which I don't regret at all, totally the opposite in fact.
Although he's made it clear he wants to still see me, he said he understands if I need some space, he is being sensitive about it.
I have thought it through to the point of him meeting someone else, I've told him I will be off at that point. He just says it will be a long time before he knows if he wants to be with someone else.
Originally I started a thread with a less depressing title than this, but had very little response, and it tapped into my feelings of not feeling important, feeling unnoticed, and I saw McGrupps suicidal thread and he was getting lots of response, so as pathetic as that is, it's because I needed someone to notice me.
I will start another thread, I better think of a title
Many thanks
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