[Boundary Problem]

Originally Posted by Sittingaround4813

He does talk about our future, always saying that we are going to be together forever and all of that.....

My only thing, and maybe you are missing my point is that all of his problems with marriage are not my fault, I believe that I shouldn't have to pay for something that other have done.

Whatever it was I am confused and hurt....

Ahh. Now I see what you are trying to say. Undoubtedly - I would be very hurt as well with the changing the mind on something so important and emotional. I don't like that about him. The cavalier hurting of your feelings on something so important to you.

Doesn't sound like he has turned his mind to this lifeplan of "together forever". Other than 'not getting married' - what is his lifeplan?

Regarding his battlescars from his past - you have no choice but to take him 'as is'. People have irreversible battlescars. We all do. And those scars have consequences. If you love the person, you take the scars without thought because the alternative is unthinkable.

Maybe he is right. Maybe him getting married again is a bad idea.