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About 2 weeks ago, I kicked my Husband out b/c I had found out that he has been with another woman. Cell Phone Calls (Enormous amount) and he was at her house. Before I found out about this woman, we were having problems communicating and he worked 65 hours a week so we technically never spent any time together.

He swears that it was just a co-worker that he started talking to so he could VENT and not bring his issues home.
Well he lied to me about her b/c he said I wouldn't understand, how do I know he's not lying to me about being "JUST FRIENDS".

My husband is willing to go to counseling and is constantly asking me to let him "SHOW" me how much he realizes that he has made a mistake these past months with not talking to me, Ignoring me, not helping me with our baby (now 1).

I want so bad to believe him, that he has changed, but I refuse to go back to the way it was. With the Other Woman asside I really do want to try and work on our marriage. I just don't know how to start.

I am trying to stick to my guns and keep him out of the house for awhile while I think of how I want to go about it, but it just seems harder and harder to get my point accross. He swears I want to end is.

It has come down to the point that I am defending him to my friends/family.

Anyone gone through this? If so how did you know it was right to have them come home and start trying to repair the marriage? We are going to individual counselors (I said we have to work on our own problems before we can even work on the marriage)

Do you think I was wrong in Kicking him out in the first place?