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Originally Posted by JaggedRoad
It's hard to keep focus on myself when I have to look back at the last 3 years and ask myself if any of it was real. What the eff was I doing? I should have been more careful when redflags started popping up everywhere in the last 14 months.
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But that is why the saying hind sight is 20/20. You look back and see you could have done things better. That is the insight you have gained form the break-up. More important questions what can you do and learn that will help you from doing it again?
And that is all about you. The more you focus and work on the things everyone says, exercise, new hobbies, building closer friends, taking classes, therapy, ect, ect ,ect. These things are not just about distracting yourself from the break-up. They do amazing things without you knowing about it; they build confidence, greater self reliance, a support network, a deeper understanding of who you are and what you want in your life.
That is the junk that keeps us from putting up with people who are not right for us or good for us, or simply waste or time. It is the stuff that attract other healthy people who can be honest in a relationship and work as a team through problems. It is the ingredients that sustains us when we are not in a relationhship so we can continue to enjoy your life.
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