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Neill -

the same thing happened to me recently. but then she cheated and even started dating the guy she cheated on me. I believe others are right when they say that she has been feeling this way for a long while and is just now willing to talk with you about it. I would suggest you have a strong heart to heart conversation before she does something she regrets and the relationship is broken. try to find her underlying reason for her unhappiness and vow to fix it. dont be overly needy and whiny about it. play it cool and suprise her with a romantic night..flower petals and some wine to see how she responds

[Neill]

Thanks everybody these comments have all been a great help, i had no where else to go for advice so I am honestly really grateful.

We have decided to give each other a few days breathing space and then meet up to talk about what happened(hopefully with a clearer head). She has said that she isnt fully sure a break up is what we need but was the only thing she could think of. (said she just freaked out when she realised the "spark" had gone) She has said that there isnt anybody else and I believe her. I can only hope that whats missing in the relationship isnt completely impossible to get back. Although im trying not to get my hopes up to much. Thanks again everybody.

ps sorry about the brief original post, I had been in a bit of a rush to try and decide whether or not to meet her.

[GrayClouds]

Originally Posted by Neill

Thanks everybody these comments have all been a great help, i had no where else to go for advice so I am honestly really grateful.

We have decided to give each other a few days breathing space and then meet up to talk about what happened(hopefully with a clearer head). She has said that she isnt fully sure a break up is what we need but was the only thing she could think of. (said she just freaked out when she realised the "spark" had gone) She has said that there isnt anybody else and I believe her. I can only hope that whats missing in the relationship isnt completely impossible to get back. Although im trying not to get my hopes up to much. Thanks again everybody.

ps sorry about the brief original post, I had been in a bit of a rush to try and decide whether or not to meet her.

I suggest in the mean time read the following you may need it:

The No Contact Guide
So you want a second chance?

[JL911]

I had a girl one time read me this right...Wanted to think about things and not to talk for a week...She broke up with me and it was possibly the best thing that ever happened to me...If this never would have happened i never would have seen what a selfish and self centered person she was and would have made it a lot harder to move on.

After many months of worrying about me and having fun I happened to meet a few girls who were different, then I met one who stood out and is now my current gf and have never been happier...

[adamt]

if the spark has gone there is very little you can do to change their mind. especially a female. you have to let her go and look after yourself. either there is someone else or she has been having doubts for a while.

[Space Ritual]

Originally Posted by Neill

Thanks everybody these comments have all been a great help, i had no where else to go for advice so I am honestly really grateful.

We have decided to give each other a few days breathing space and then meet up to talk about what happened(hopefully with a clearer head). She has said that she isnt fully sure a break up is what we need but was the only thing she could think of. (said she just freaked out when she realised the "spark" had gone) She has said that there isnt anybody else and I believe her. I can only hope that whats missing in the relationship isnt completely impossible to get back. Although im trying not to get my hopes up to much. Thanks again everybody.

ps sorry about the brief original post, I had been in a bit of a rush to try and decide whether or not to meet her.

Her line about their not being somebody else is as fresh as a Foghat Concert.


a few days breathing space huh? sorry Neill but don't be surprised when you have the meeting (which I expect will end poorly and in a permanent break) that you will find out within the next few weeks that she is dating somebody else. She is following a very familiar script

Good luck...I hope I am wrong but I doubt I am

[GoneButNotForgotten]

I'm inclined to agree with most of the posters so far. It is almost as if she is following the classic breakup textbook. And personally I don't do the "break" thing anymore. Once was enough for me. I can't think of many times where people came back and the relationship went on well afterwards. You probably don't want to believe what we are saying and that is fine, but remember that while each relationship is unique they still tend to follow patterns. And this is sounding like one that has run its course.

[GrayClouds]

Originally Posted by Space Ritual

Her line about their not being somebody else is as fresh as a Foghat Concert.

WOW Foghat reference, I am impressed.

[Space Ritual]

lol...the last time I ever saw Foghat about 15 years ago Lonesome Dave strolled up to the Mic and exclaimed..."Thanks, Chicago...We are just happy to be playing ANYWHERE"!!!