[DanielMadr]

Originally Posted by theumlaut

I'm 5'4" and looking for input from women about their view of guys that height and perceptions of attractiveness based on height

Studies--scholarly and my own research on Match--show that only about 10% of women include my height in the height requirements/preferences they list on their profiles.

Based on that statistic, 90% exclude me from consideration based on height, regardless of any other physical or else wise factor. Being in the bottom 10% is equivalent to being a "1" physically. Other physical factors play a part, but if you're written off by 90% based on one trait, that leaves you at the "1" level, no?

My weight is dead on-average to a handful of pounds lighter, and I'm considered somewhat handsome, but I'm not sure how much effect they'd have on my looks "score" given the height issue.

I'm far more then my height or appearance and have many great things going on, but the role of height is a question that always lurks. I intend to post another time with other questions relating to dating in real life, not on-line, where I think actually talking in person diminishes (somewhat) the "short height" disadvantage.

Here's a Match message that brought the question into stark relief for me recently. She contacted me, then we shared about 4-5 messages from each of us, then I received this message:

"I need to share something with you about which I'm very embarrassed, particularly since I'm the one who initiated our e-mailing. The reason I wrote to you is because you're obviously very bright and handsome, and I just didn't look at the stats. I'm 5'10." Our height difference is a problem for me, one that I won't overcome. I wish you all the best."

O.K. She said she had just begun on-line for the first time ever, but she didn't look at the stats until after sending me 4-5 messages over a week? After the numerous good things she said, the great, fun, smart messages, and after having impressed her greatly, this happens. Sent me into a major downward spiral. I've received messages from other women about not being interested based on height, but not after being contact being initiated by the woman and after a long exchange. Wish she hadn't given me the true reason.

Damn, you are in denial.

Ofcourse, height is a plus. But its not alpha and omega, man.

I have seen it man, short guys and I mean really short guys...they were like 151cm...hooking up with superfical hot girls. And they had one thing in common.....their height was just a nuaisance for them to laugh about now and then. They were men with capital M. Men you would go to a battle with and you wouldnt hesitate a second. They had that strong attitude.

Stop the whining, man. Even if looked like movie star and you were long like a work week, some women just wont like you for whatever reasons and come up with some bs as reason.

Get over it or die crying in the corner.