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Old 4th November 2009, 4:13 PM   #1
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How Did You Know You Where In-Love?

For those of you who have been in love, are in love or know anything about the subject, how did you know? How did you know this person was "the one", at least the one at that point of time. Just curious.
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Old 4th November 2009, 4:17 PM   #2
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For those of you who have been in love, are in love or know anything about the subject, how did you know? How did you know this person was "the one", at least the one at that point of time. Just curious.
I wish I could tell you, but I can't figure that out myself!
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Old 4th November 2009, 5:07 PM   #3
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Yeah its so beyond words.

Erm.....I guess, never really looking at anyone else, seeing a future with him, missing him 5 minutes after we were apart, feeling the most peace and calm in his arms and the most distress and pain when we were apart.

Its such a hard thing to explain, I don't actually think you can explain it, but he made me want marriage and kids when I was completely anti-marriage and kids beforehand.
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Old 4th November 2009, 10:18 PM   #4
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The first time we held our child together after she came off the ventilator. He and I are no longer husband and wife, but we will always love each other. The bond of family that we forged on that day will last a lifetime between us.
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Old 5th November 2009, 6:44 PM   #5
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It's really difficult to do justice to this question.

I realized I was infatuated when I couldn't stop grinning when he called, or when I would sit around daydreaming about our sex life when I was supposed to be working. Then we started getting sappy and I would think, "This is so not me," but I still liked it...and he said the same. I had trust issues and he made it safe for me to talk about them without pressuring me for more, and I just started to notice how my defenses were softening around him, how he consistently gave me hard evidence that he was special, that he thought I was special. And over time we just kind of grew into this commitment where I found myself waking up in the mornings and realizing I was where I wanted to be for the rest of my life.
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Old 5th November 2009, 6:46 PM   #6
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If you have to ask about it, you know you're not in love. It's impossible to describe but you know it when you feel it!
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Old 5th November 2009, 6:53 PM   #7
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When, as Phi Collins once said, "Two Hearts beating in just one time, beating together, till the end of time"

Okay, but seriously, I dunno, when I realized I could look past just the short term and envision something long term with them.
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Old 5th November 2009, 6:54 PM   #8
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Old 5th November 2009, 7:05 PM   #9
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It's really difficult to do justice to this question.

I realized I was infatuated when I couldn't stop grinning when he called, or when I would sit around daydreaming about our sex life when I was supposed to be working. Then we started getting sappy and I would think, "This is so not me," but I still liked it...and he said the same. I had trust issues and he made it safe for me to talk about them without pressuring me for more, and I just started to notice how my defenses were softening around him, how he consistently gave me hard evidence that he was special, that he thought I was special. And over time we just kind of grew into this commitment where I found myself waking up in the mornings and realizing I was where I wanted to be for the rest of my life.
Oh wow...

This is what I want.
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Old 5th November 2009, 7:34 PM   #10
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When each day just got better and better, and when I knew that even if we had a fight, he would still be there the next morning.

Its a feeling that has grown and strengthened over time, and having our first child together has added another amazing dimension to it...
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Old 5th November 2009, 11:26 PM   #11
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I know by hugging her she has such a warm and loving embrace.
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Old 6th November 2009, 1:15 AM   #12
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I felt comfortable with him, and I started opening up to him which I'd never done to a guy before. I could feel that connection with him. I thought about him every single day, sometimes even every minute of the day. I overlooked his flaws even though I was fully aware of their presence. I put up with his friends even though I didn't like some of them. I had no eyes for anyone else. I stopped looking. I wanted to marry him and have his kids, even though I'm pretty much anti-babies and indifferent to marriage.

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Old 9th November 2009, 7:42 AM   #13
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I don't know. I think there isn't normally the exact pin point moment, it sort of just gradually flows to love. Generally, you know its love when all you do is think about them, what would make them happy, you care when they hurt because you hurt with them, you love their flaws because they are a part of them, and you are all accepting.
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Old 9th November 2009, 5:50 PM   #14
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I am not sure. I know infatuation is a strong feeling, same as "being in love", but real love. . . not sure. I have confused it with being in love.
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