It's kinda sad, to be honest. I think he's convinced himself to think that way only because there's a bun in her oven. Before that, he was planning on a really long engagement, and questioned whether he even wanted children! But apparently she's religious, and his family *kinda* is as well, so he had to "make a real woman" out of her by marrying her. He did get lucky though - she's gorgeous and very, very sweet. Who knows, maybe he would have married her anyway?
And at least they're both getting a real wedding, not the typical shotgun thing.
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It does make you wonder how good things will be or how long it will last once they start having a "real" life together. Because it has all been rushed, it does feel as if it could crash.
But to be honest in this day and age, I do not see why couples "have to get married" if the woman is pegnant. If you have planned to get married, just do it later when you both have had time to properly think out about it.
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If they aren't cognitively compatible, then I don't see this marriage being a happy one.
If it was my son/daughter, I would put the brakes on marriage. Even if it caused North Pole arctic relationship with her/his parents.
Let these two soon-to-be parents work through a normal relationship. If they want to get married when their child is a couple years old - fine. But I don't believe in shot-gun weddings.
I met my husband in June 2008. He asked me to marry him in August then we got married in November. Our 1 year anniversary is this upcoming weekend =) and we have NO kids yet.
So, it depends on their situation. They might be deeply in love that's all.
If they're not worried about it, why are you??
I met my husband in June 2008. He asked me to marry him in August then we got married in November. Our 1 year anniversary is this upcoming weekend =) and we have NO kids yet.
So, it depends on their situation. They might be deeply in love that's all.
If they're not worried about it, why are you??
And yet, the thread you posted demonstrates that you're already having serious problems in your new marriage.
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It does pose a valid question...
I agree that this seems rushed (very much so)... But how do you put a timeline on something so subjective?
I suppose that's the very question... I don't know.
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If they aren't cognitively compatible, then I don't see this marriage being a happy one.
It is never wise to jump in too quick no matter how much you think that person is 'The One' ... you will never know the real person until you have spent serious amounts of time together.
The more bright the flame, the quicker it goes out!
Yes, some people may have married after a month of meeting and still be together 100 years later but most dont go the distance
It is never wise to jump in too quick no matter how much you think that person is 'The One' ... you will never know the real person until you have spent serious amounts of time together.
The more bright the flame, the quicker it goes out!
Yes, some people may have married after a month of meeting and still be together 100 years later but most dont go the distance
Truer words were never spoken! Well said Lish.
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I met my husband in June 2008. He asked me to marry him in August then we got married in November. Our 1 year anniversary is this upcoming weekend =) and we have NO kids yet.
So, it depends on their situation. They might be deeply in love that's all.
If they're not worried about it, why are you??
You met and courted briefly your husband in the limerance stage. You really did not know him very well. It can take a year to two years to really get to know someone.
Reading one of your former posts I had to wonder why you were checking your husbands phone so much / him texting his ex / do you trust him ?
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He did get lucky though - she's gorgeous and very, very sweet. Who knows, maybe he would have married her anyway?
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