[Weezy]

Thanks for the great reply.

Originally Posted by Drrelationship

In all honesty this sounds like the situation I was in about 7 years ago. I had a good looking, smart, but not very logical girlfriend. In fact, her logic was way out in left field. I am a straight shooter, and I like to be able to explain peoples actions and alot of the time I couldn't explain hers.

Yep, this sounds a lot like my GF, and I am a very strait shooter.

Originally Posted by Drrelationship

In my opinion I would break it off. There are a lot of reasons for this but when you said this:

"she starts getting mad that I've been treating her so nice and asks why it took 3 years?"

That's when you know you need to leave. You see, you were trying to HELP the relationship by being a better guy. You "stepped it up". And what does she do in return, she complains about the past.

Not to defend her actions, but I really feel the reason she said this was because she had decided weeks before hand that she would end the relationship shortly after our planned vacation. Although I didn't see it coming, I did "feel" it coming, and now that I look back, and read other peoples posts about how women detach, I'm convinced that I started to treat her better as a result of me feeling her pull away, and it through her for a loop because she had already decided that it was time to look for a new relationship that was moving in the direction she wanted. Marriage, Kids, spending every night together.

Things I didn't even notice until it was over that I should have picked up on like giving me stuff back, asking for things I had of hers back a couple of weeks before our awesome vacation, not talking about the future.

Originally Posted by Drrelationship

I know the past is a hard thing to let go of, especially 3 years of past. But you can, and you'll be thankful you did.

How long did it take you to let go?

It's almost been 2 months now since we said our goodbyes, NC on either side. I've always questioned her logic and her anger, but she loved me to death and did anything I asked. Still hard to let go.