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Old 6th November 2009, 1:47 PM   #4
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What you have to do is ask yourself this? What do YOU want out of this relationship? You are just beginning, and already you clearly have some frustrations and it's clearly affecting your mental well being. If you cannot be absolutely yourself around this person, than you don't need her. You need to have someone with you that will allow you to grow into the type of person you need to be, not compromise yourself to try and ensure her happiness.

Let me ask you this, and really think about it. Are you a nice person, or are you being nice? If you can answer in less than a couple mins, you are lying to yourself. TRULY nice people don't state that they are being nice. You are being nice to her because you want something. Her love, affections, acceptance, vajayjay, etc. You want a reward for being nice, and since you aren't getting anything in return, I can already feel resentment in your statements. There is clearly an unhealthy balance in this relationship, and while I'm not saying you should break up, you really should sit down and evaluate what you want out of this. A relationship works only if each partner is willing to give equally as the next, and clearly you've already given more than you recieved. Just think about it.
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