[Warsaw]

Hello there,

So I started talking to this girl on msn like 2 months ago and I've never felt this way about anyone before. It's actually insane how I feel about her. We always get on reallly great on msn, I booked flights a couple of days ago to come visit her for 2 days. Last night I talked to her on the phone for the first time. We talked for 3 hours, she did most of the talking and I can't help but feel I let her down. Afterwards I said here look I'm sorry for being so quiet on the phone. She said, no it's ok you were lovely. I'm pretty sure she was just being nice. It also didn't help that she could only understand me half the time I talked. I feel so empty today, like I've let her down and she doesn't even like me. I couldn't sleep at all last night over it. I even started to cry a litttle as well. I'm afraid to message her on msn again. That's pretty much it. HELP ME, I don't want to mess things up. I might be reading too much into this.

[Ecosse]

MSN message her... be yourself... Dont apologize so much...

If she is herself then all is well... if things are not good then dont try to force a relationship... Keep looking for the person who is correct for you...

[Miad's Princess]

Originally Posted by Warsaw

Afterwards I said here look I'm sorry for being so quiet on the phone. She said, no it's ok you were lovely.

Doesn't that give you assurance, "no it's ok you were lovely"

I think you are reading to much into it. Don't worry about it so much, I bet when you next talk, you will feel so much better...

[Ecosse]

I will also add that LDRs are difficult... So much of a conversation is less in what you say but how you say it... Actually you would be surprised if you found out just how much you say without talking (body language etc). So imagine it like this... if a normal (face to face) conversation is you functioning at 100%... Over the phone, youre trying to communicate being deaf in 1 ear, blind, and paralyzed... so is she!

Other advise:
Id definitely try to also remember that the world doesnt revolve around you! Im not implying that youre some egotistical tool, just that she has a life too. If she doesnt answer your call or message right away, it doesnt mean she dumped you of lost interest... You really need to hold onto some confidence with LDRs. They take trust.

So like I posted earlier, dont apologize too much. If you didnt talk all that much last time you spoke thats OK. You just have that much more to talk about in further conversations.

[starrynights36]

I think you're over-analyzing yourself too much! It was just the first phone call and I'm sure you both were quite nervous. I know with the first phone call I had with my S.O I did most of the talking due to nerves and he stayed quiet.

If she says you were lovely then you were! The next conversation should go much smoother for you.