[harmfulsweetz]

You can't be all that guilty, can you? I mean, you are still doing it, right? Sorry but that doesn't equate to guilt, that's you coming on here for validation.

You probably weren't ready for marriage, your actions prove that. Get a divorce before you have kids. For his sake. Let him find someone better.

Sorry.

It sounds like you want the excitement, the thrill, the danger of an A, but also the security of an M. You can't have both. Put yourself in your H's shoes one second, would you like that? Wouldn't you dump his ass? I would. It happens in every R though, the sex gets boring, dull, etc, you fall into a rut etc, but it's up to YOU BOTH to get that back on track, not allowing it to fall to an A. A sex will always be fantastic-its new, its fun, its exciting, its sex not making love. See, but this can only last so long until that gets boring too.

He's attentive blah blah, yeah for now. While he isn't tied down to you. If you want attentive and all that, why haven't you spoken to your H about your needs before now? Before fulfilling them off someone else? You do have a lot to answer for, and think about, I would think about telling your H and letting him decide. You have no right to a choice in this.