Cheating, Flirting, and JealousyBeing unfaithful to your significant other or suspect them of the same? Can't stand the way they flirt? Jealous? Discuss your experiences here.
Maybe he didn't want to tell the other woman, if there is one, that he has had the snip. My ex didnt tell his new g/f til a few months into their relationship, because I think she said from the beginning that she wanted kids
thats just what i am trying to figure out myself, i have racked my brains today, thinking of all kinds of bad thoughts, could he be having sex with call girls and trying not to catch something from them or does he have a girlfriend that is careful not to catch std's from him or anyone else? i have read on the net that it helps to keep down the spread of std's and hiv when used with a condom.. when my husband got home tonight he told me he knew where the note came from, he said his dad... his dad had passed away in 2005 and went to the same doctor as he does, now i am really worried..and he thinks i have bought this ideal of his.. when in fact i know that is not true, because he bought the old car shortly after his father passed..and as far as shaving, i did read that it was good for that and if he had a problem with that i could understand the note, but he doesn't.. just trying to find the truth. may never get it.. thank you for all your help.
well regardless of the reason for him having the piece of paper, your husband definitely lied to you and tried to get your daughter to lie to you.
that compounded with the fact that you drove 40 minutes each way to confirm that he lied to you is just a huge red flag that something is really wrong with your relationship
i didn't read your other threads, but it sounds like you've had trust issues with your husband....
it also sounds like the note is really old... could it be from before he got the snip?
have y'all gone to marriage counseling?
honestly, my first impression was that if he is cheating on you maybe the doctor suggested that he may want to stay away from nonoxynol-9 because it can have adverse effects and it shortens the life of a condom... and since he doesn't need it...
have you ever found condoms in the car or otherwise?
i don't know... it sounds like your marriage has deep-seeded issues and there doesn't seem to be adequate communication between you and your husband.... what are you doing to alleviate that?
the note has to be no older than one year old because last year i checked out his car for anything out of the way, and at that time i didn't find anything.. yes i have trust issues for about 5 yrs now, i have lived in the dark most of our marriage and trusted what ever he told me and even when i caught him in a lie, he would still come up with a good story and then i would let it go, i am a very easy going person but now that i am at the age i am, my eyes are wide open to all the crap he has and is doing.
i have ask him to go to counceling and he said no way, it didn't work for my parents and my sister so why would you waste the money.. so i never pushed it again. but as far as i know, i only thought that he was a big flirt and that he likes to watch porn and in his business he took many guys to bars and topless bars, worked with many women, but now i think it much more, i think there is a deep deep sercet he has..... and the funny thing is that just 2 week ago, he told me some crack whore told him he was cute..
could he be telling on himself?
i don't know... it sounds like your marriage has deep-seeded issues and there doesn't seem to be adequate communication between you and your husband.... what are you doing to alleviate that?
I agree with serialgf.
It is like he wants to get caught. Why would that be? Sometimes husbands are cowards and you have to swing your sword and do the dirty work.
Massage parlours? Crack wh-res? How far are you going to follow this trail of breadcrumbs? To a positive HIV test?
boundaryproblem,
never really thought about that, thanks, you have made me think and thats what i need to do, i wouldn't want some guy to do that to my girls and why would i settle for less. i am a much stronger person then i was years ago, but this time its different, i'm not crying.
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