[boundaryproblem]

When someone asks me "do you love yourself" - I get really uncomfortable because it is such a stupid question.

But I think my discomfort comes from the fact that I struggle with it. I respect and like myself. But it wasn't until this year when I did some self-analysis that I realized that I hadn't allowed myself to actually love myself.

In the past I think I worried that if I loved myself I would instantly become one of those insufferable people that no one wants to spend time with, and that it wasn't too honourable to focus too much on myself.

But now that I opened that door within myself to 100% self-acceptance - my phone is ringing off the hook. I don't know how people know, but they know.

If you are happy and satisfied within - they are like moths to your candle.

You need to love yourself more than you love him.

Start a relationship with yourself. Take yourself for a manicure, take yourself on a shopping trip, buy yourself a cup of coffee, join a club. Keep your eyes open for interesting opportunities, e.g. a new hobby. Be open to it - and your fascinating life will happen all by itself once you make the decision to love yourself more than you love him.

Incidentally when you are off having your relationship with yourself, you won't be available by phone as much (too invasive to talk on phone when having relaxing manicure) and who has time for facebook when they are canoeing a beautiful lake?

Hopefully that helps.