[Ms. Joolie]

TaraMaiden, thank you for hammering this out with me. Your help was the final touch.

I really do feel better now.


I know I didn't do it the old NC way, and I have to intention of using that method with him. He can't be ignored, I won't ignore him because I do love him.* But I have a new view of the ENTIRE relationship. So IF he comes back, we can talk, really talk, really discuss things. (In a friendly way! He may not even be interested! haha... just preparing myself for the "what ifs" I guess.)

It's possible he will come back.

Yesterday I attended a new seminar by Landmark.... something HE introduced me to.... something that was introduced to him through his dad.

Well, lo and behold, his dad was there and will be there for all 10 sessions of this seminar that extends to March.

So there is a possibility that NC won't work for me. However, as I said, I am over with the past relationship... or rather over the relationship that wasn't.


*Should add: I love him as a person... not even romantically anymore. Amazing! So I'll care for him IF that opportunity arises, but that is all, and that is all I feel for him at present. He has after all been a big part of my life, with me through out my eating disorder recovery and stuff. No one was in the wrong I think in our relationship... it just didn't work.