[TaraMaiden]

I was married at 21.
I was as sure - if not more sure - about my feelings for my husband, as you are about your GF now.
we were solid, committed and completely at one with one another. he was my life, my soul, my everything, and I his.
we were destined to be together, and for ever meant for ever.
he had no eyes, mind or heart for anyone else, and neither did I.
we were happy, in love and committed.

A year later, we agreed to divorce.
Had to wait 2 years, for it to be allowed to go through, but I have no idea now, what the hell I must have been thinking.

of course it feels right, but I'm afraid I'm inclined to agree with the others.
If this really is it - there's no hurry.
If it's solid, nothing can touch it.
If it isn't - nothing can save it.

And one more thing:
The fact that you are bisexual is not her concern, it's yours.

at one point (and trust me, it has come up many times here) the bi-sexual partner - married or with a person of the opposite sex - craves sex with a same-sex partner.

The fact is, fidelity is the same word, whatever gender the third party is.
Your question of remaining faithful is no greater or lesser than mine is with my heterosexual partner.

Your fidelity and concern about your bi-sexuality is your issue to deal with. Not hers.

[Boundary Problem]

If I were you, I would shelve the idea of marriage for 15 years.

See how things are going when you are around 35 and have an excellent understanding of yourself and others in a relationship context.

And then build a life that takes into account the truths you have learnt.

That is if you want to live an honest life.

I don't think you have enough data about yourself and how you relate to others to be able to make a solid decision that will withstand the realities of life.

So if you jump into something now, you will cause yourself and the other person (and children born) pain.

[fllove17]

You see this a lot in graduate schools but I think it applies for people moving because of work as well. When a couple is willing to separate because of work or school or whatever, there is an underlying issue. Not always but usually. When a relationship is really good and the two people are really committed to each other(as married people should be), they move together. Because their relationship comes first. It shouldnt really even be in doubt.

Why didnt she come with you? Because you didnt want her to be from her family? While thats a nice thought, people move away from their family all the time. And if you two are to be married, you are also now part of her family. If the two of you were waiting for her to graduate school or something like that I could understand. But it doesnt quite sound like that.

I'd wait on the proposal personally.