[OneCoconut]

Originally Posted by Nikki Sahagin

Well I guess for me it was to know what he's doing and keep ahead of him? Almost in a weird way comparing how our life's are going. Its like a comparison thing. To see who's in he's life/what he's doing without us speaking. I don't really know why...I guess its the last tie to sever. But anytime I feel the urge to look i'm going to write back on here and hope maybe someone has some words of encouragement for me!

I heard it's not great to dwell on things like this.

BUT. I also checked my ex's facebook page obessesivly when we first broke up. The major problem in our relationship was all career-financial. He just couldn't ever keep a good job and his EGO was too much. At that time we broke up, I had just lost my job as well. So I was also checking his facebook status to see where he was going/what jobs he was going for. Just like you.. comparing lives. It worked out for me because I realized that he made a lot of plans and promises that he couldn't keep. Made me realize he's not the man I could ever want. At the same time, I was working on myself(moving on) and when you compare it to his life.. I was so much better. I have a great job now and living a great life while he's just... jobless and STILL making these "plans/promises". I have completely no feelings anymore for him and checking has stopped for me. I have "closure"? He just wasn't the man for me and he will always never be the man for me.

So I'm not trying to encourage checking his facebook but you know.. it's the way you look at it. You're not trying to "care" for him but more like see why are so much better without him. But alas, it's time to focus on yourself, girl! So just do that! Better your life! Once you do that.. you'll forget about checking and the point of checking will be stupid.