I'm confused why you haven't turned her down for Saturday yet if you have plans.
You know.. it may be possible she's not comfortable with giving out her number to someone she hasn't met yet.
You'd know if you'd just straight out and ask. Not every girl is the same. Just because something worked with another girl doesn't mean it will with this one.
She may be trying to date while carrying on some heavier responsibilities.
Just find out once and for all, or move on. Case closed.
She just sent the e-mail to me a few hours ago suggesting it. I plan to respond in the morning. Still at work. Don't doubt her responsibilities.
Something isn't kosher about this girl. As BCCA said she either has a low level of interest OR She has someone else in the picture.
A few months back I was going back and forth with a girl who I had met via online. I was always skeptical of this and my instincts told me something was wrong with the girl. We went back and forth via email for weeks and then set something up (she finally gave me her number). Then she didn't show up and told me that her uncle was in the hospital. Call her ONCE afterwards to let her know how much of a FLAKE she was but no answer.
Sure enough I get a call about an hour later from a jealous boyfriend....lol, go figure. I went down that path once and learned my lesson. Whatever happens, just learn from this as well.
However, the juice is definetly not worth the squeeze in this case.
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Don't really matter. Sent the e-mail to her this morning. She replied back at lunch and said she's busy on the times I suggested. Said we'll figure something out another weekend.
Don't really matter. Sent the e-mail to her this morning. She replied back at lunch and said she's busy on the times I suggested. Said we'll figure something out another weekend.
Replied back said sure and have a good weekend.
Good. Aren't you glad you didn't waste gas and money on a latte? No counter offer means, Bye bye!
So Tiz, by filtering out girls who don't seem interested in you anyway, crazy_grl accuses you of playing games?
Exactly. I didn't even refer to it in terms of playing games. I said vying for position not "vying for power". She wrote that. Power over someone is the last thing on my mind. I'm always thinking where I am in the relationship even in the beginning. I'm putting the girl's every action under a microscope. Crazy_grl seems to think my intentions are bad.
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Do you use this microscope just for the beginning or is it used throughout? I feel like if you let that go on for too long, the relationship loses its luster and it's harder to enjoy it.
Exactly. I didn't even refer to it in terms of playing games. I said vying for position not "vying for power".
Synonyms.
If you guys don't understand why what you're doing is an unhealthy way to handle a relationship, I can't help you. Hopefully for your own sakes, you'll eventually figure it out. I'm not saying you should be a push over and put up with some woman's BS, but calculating and testing and using rules like "the woman never sets the date" is not the way to go.
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