[lilbelle]

Originally Posted by euroxx

So she loves me? What the hell?

Excuse me if I seem really really dense at the moment. But this is the first time I've seen this situation be approached by this angle.

okay, all i'm saying is. she is insecure in the relationship. i can't tell you about love. she is insecure. if you want it to work go nc and reflect on this.

when ex was at the bar friday i made damn sure to flirt and act a fool to see if it would stir up feelings, anything. it didn't cause he doesn't give a fuuuuck. understand?

[euroxx]

Originally Posted by lilbelle

okay, all i'm saying is. she is insecure in the relationship. i can't tell you about love. she is insecure. if you want it to work go nc and reflect on this.

when ex was at the bar friday i made damn sure to flirt and act a fool to see if it would stir up feelings, anything. it didn't cause he doesn't give a fuuuuck. understand?

Gotcha.

Well that night never happened. A friend of her family who's husband is dying called her because they had taken him to hospice. She went out and by the time she came back said she wasn't coherent enough to take in what I had to say. She was very apologetic and promised that we would get together the next day to talk since she'd be around my place at 11AM. Well 11AM came and went and I received no call from her, she disappeared mid-afternoon according to her mother and never came home last night. It's now 5:13 the next day and to my knowledge she has still not been home. I'm reluctant to call her parents or around looking for her, but it's got me questioning what happened. She did nothing but outline how important it was for her to hear what the counselor send.

Hmmm.

[Praying4Daylight]

Originally Posted by euroxx

Gotcha.

Well that night never happened. A friend of her family who's husband is dying called her because they had taken him to hospice. She went out and by the time she came back said she wasn't coherent enough to take in what I had to say. She was very apologetic and promised that we would get together the next day to talk since she'd be around my place at 11AM. Well 11AM came and went and I received no call from her, she disappeared mid-afternoon according to her mother and never came home last night. It's now 5:13 the next day and to my knowledge she has still not been home. I'm reluctant to call her parents or around looking for her, but it's got me questioning what happened. She did nothing but outline how important it was for her to hear what the counselor send.

Hmmm.

Excuses is all that is! I don't think she cares what the counselor has to say, she just doesn't want to tell you. So instead she goes out all night doing god knows what and vanishes on you. I suggest you do the same in return.

[euroxx]

Originally Posted by Praying4Daylight

Excuses is all that is! I don't think she cares what the counselor has to say, she just doesn't want to tell you. So instead she goes out all night doing god knows what and vanishes on you. I suggest you do the same in return.

I figured that in as well. But she's the one who asked when she read my facebook status, not me. And she's also the one who kept bringing it up. If she didn't want to tell me, she was certainly going to great lengths to make it seem like she did care.

And for the record I've been playing this pretty LC, I don't think NC is appropriate in our situation (Yes I've reflected.) I'm just doing a lot of my thinking and venting through here. I will be typing up what I was told by the counselor here too, since I think it will help some other men in similar situations.

[Praying4Daylight]

Originally Posted by euroxx

I figured that in as well. But she's the one who asked when she read my facebook status, not me. And she's also the one who kept bringing it up. If she didn't want to tell me, she was certainly going to great lengths to make it seem like she did care.

And for the record I've been playing this pretty LC, I don't think NC is appropriate in our situation (Yes I've reflected.) I'm just doing a lot of my thinking and venting through here. I will be typing up what I was told by the counselor here too, since I think it will help some other men in similar situations.

I "think" she's playing games here,man. She's telling you what you want to hear to keep you hanging on, while her actions are on the other side of the spectrum. I'd also like to read what was said by the counselor. and I REALLY mean it!haha!

[euroxx]

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t208831/

She may very well be. I'm not playing them at the moment though There's the session.