[AliveAndKicking]

Originally Posted by Bulldozed

seriously who dismisses a 20 yr friendship for a guy just getting out of a divorce?

Your EX- that's who :-|

Sorry- you begged for that one, ya know?

You're trying. It's freakin' HARD. I know- you want answers. You want understanding. You want this thing that does make sense to somehow make sense. STOP. Just stop.

You are not going to find ANY answers to any of the questions right now. It just won't happen. Period. There is only one way to EVER find peace in any of this: you have to unplug, detach, and let go.

Damn, man, I wish there was some other way. I have never found it if it exists. You just have to trust that answers will come, later, in their own time, but only if you let go and get on with your life.

I'm sorry. I wish there was some other way. I wish there was something I could say or do to make this easier for you. If there was I would do it in a heartbeat. I don't know yuo but I know your pain and frustration like the back of my hand. I'm sorry you have to go through this but if you want to heal upand come to some sort of peace within yourself you just gotta let go. And letting go is the hardest thing in the world to do.

Once you truly let go guess what? You will have a new lease on life. You will feel yourself healing and I mean you will feel it NOW. I can't explain how to do it other than you have to resolve within yourself that there is nothing you can do to "fix" things and just say goodbye. For me it was a feeling of peaceful resignation: I let her go do whatever it is she wants to do. I swear to you the second I did that I felt giddy. I felt a relief that I had not felt in YEARS. I felt like the sun had risen for the first time ages.

Make it about you. Read the post I'm responding to- who is it about? It's about her. Like I said: you want answers. You want to understand it. You want to somehow come to a rational conclusion in your mind that this makes sense. Forget it. It ain't gonna make sense. The sooner you accept that the sooner you will heal up, feel better, and wake up at peace.

All of your questions have nothing to do with you- she is doing what she is doing, she is thinking what she is thinking, and for her it makes sense.

You're on vacation now. You don't have to to think about her any more. Its done. It's over. That book is written.

Start YOUR NEW LIFE right now. That is the ONLY thing YOU can do- restart YOUR life right......

Now.

Be brave and trust that it WILL get better in time. the sooner you just cast it off the sooner you will start to heal. You've got what it takes. If I can do it you can do it.

You CAN do it.

It's late and I'm beat. Ill check up on ya tomorrow...