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Old 4th November 2009, 11:51 PM   #1
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How can I feel guilty!?

Looking for some reassurance. First, I know I should be doing true No Contact, but actually, to an extent, looking at facebook has helped me. After being dumped because she didn't trust me, I have been bad about checking her facebook, but all of her friends kept me as friends as well, no doubt spying on me since they are on constantly, and they think the break up is my fault.

Anyway, did bad and sent a few messages through there, which I got responses to, all niceties and jokes. Sent her one last handwritten letter that basically says no hard feelings, let me know if you're interested again, and if I'm not with someone else, will likely give it another go since, from my perspective, we had nothing to break up over.

As expected, heard nothing. Meanwhile, a couple of old female friends (she never met or knew) post things on my wall like "how was the weekend, let's stay in touch" and "thanks for a great time, see you next weekend". So if she's looking, she likely thinks I am dating again. So the last things she does is 1. send an "I like" message to a friend of mine's picture (this friend works with me and sees me nearly every weekend), she has no other connection to him 2. deletes her account about a week and a half later.

I can't believe, now I feel guilty that she might feel bad that she thinks I am dating so quickly after break up (around a month when first posting was on my page).

On the plus side of me being on there, to get back at me, her sister posted pics of them with a bunch of random guys at a bar which were taken while we were dating, so makes me feel more ok about being trusting during the relationship.
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Old 5th November 2009, 10:03 AM   #2
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What are you guys? 12? Stop these silly Facebook games. This is why social networking sucks my dirty donkey balls.

As far as you feeling guilty about how your ex feels, screw that! This is about you, and your happiness. You and you alone. She is no longer part of the equation so f*ck her right in the ear. Go out, date, do whatever that makes YOU happy. But, please, stop the dumb Facebook posting wars.
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