[learnfrommymistakes]

I respect that, fully. My guess is that a BS (even if she has no proof of being BS) might have an inclination, guess, hint, hunch...nagging feeling. If I was with something (husband, long term BF) and I suspected or felt there was a chance he was lying/cheating.....I would be (I AM) the type to find a support group or forum to ask questions, learn, grow vent..etc

Perhaps I am just completely blown away that people can have in depth, long term affairs, in the same town, and the other person has no clue...baffles the sh## out of me really.

Since I know forums like this exists, if I had a concern abt someone I was with, I sure would be lurking or asking questions here.

I am pretty upfront and transparent, and certainly am speaking in my own tongue..but I was way more internal when I still had a bf, yet had lingering feelings about my MM. While I was not cheating, emotionally i still had strong feelings for my exmm while I was with my exBF and that caused a lot of pain, and i did not post here much. Now I can post all day long...cause I am not with either...lol

freedom can be a great thing
thx for all the posts and back and forth tonight...it helps to talk it out sometimes or just blabbbbbb...lol
lfmm