[sunnyk1068]

The most important question to consider is do you love her? You say that there is an imbalance and what does that matter? I have been in plenty of relationships and there is always an imbalance. Perhaps it is that she is more capable of loving and giving of herself than you are in which case you more than likely will never find a perfect balance. You always imagined yourself with an artsits. Well I always imagined myself with Prince Charming or Bo Brady from Days of Our Lives but that never quite worked out. You say you have all of these things in common, and that she makes you happy, and makes you laugh and she LIKES sports (do you know what my hisband would do for that to be the case in our house???) Let's say you find this artist you think you are suposed to be with, and you lose all of those other things, are you still happy? Someone that brings more to your life than they take away, someone who has your best interests at heart, all the time, who can put up with all of your "stuff" that is what is at the heart of any good long term relationship. Butterflies fly away. Oh my GOD moments are far and few between in any relationship, I do not care who you talk to, if they tell you differently they are lying. If living together is what you are scared of, then it sounds like it is really something missing within you, not her. If she has been worth flying back and forth to, and a year is a LONG time for a LDR to work, then there has to be something there that you see as potential. I would be hesitant to let go of what you have right in front of you, from what you say there really isn't anything missing other than the butterflies, and a balance which are 2 thngs that I would challenge you to find anywhere.