[CARL45]

I find out as I get older how different my parents are from me. I know I have some of the same ideals as them,but we look at things so differently. One shocking episode highlights this. One night my father and I were talking about me teaching( I am a english major) in china. I mentioned that a friend of mine married a native girl he met in poland. My father told me right strate that he doesn't want me walking into his house with some Asian woman. I first I ignored it,but later I thought about how my parents viewed things. My mother views interracial relationships with total disgust and when see's a black man/white woman couple on TV she literally gets upset and say's some remark like "they act like every black man wants a white woman". It's downright funny how much we have to tip toe around the issue. Even when it comes to movies such as Will Smith's movie Hitch, she'll say something like I refuse to see it because Will Smith's not with a black woman. I literally laugh in my brain. I stay away from the topic with my mother. My mother though she hates to admit it is a woman of high drama. Even when it comes to me going out my mother say's things like "was there any black girls there?", I unfortunately lie and say yes to calm her down,but these questions grate on my nerves and bother me. Anyone else have the same experiences?

[TheLoneSock]

For an english major you had a lot grammar errors, I thought that was ironic.

Are you sure you're not another troll? (so-and-so+random#) seems to be the name of choice for people with nothing better to do these days.

[CARL45]

I'm just sleepy and rambling on. Sorry about the errors! I just wanted to put my ideas out there, and didn't even think about making corrections. And No! I am not a troll or what ever the hell they are! What a strange question. I put down my question looking for serious advice!

[Ronni_W]

Carl,
I get that it's a sensitive issue, but have you considered that the words that won't enter your own brain are: prejudiced, discriminatory, racist?

It's not too comfortable to have to think-know that our parents are, or may be, like that (to whatever degree)...but the good news is that it doesn't appear that they were successful in passing on their values about this specific thing to you.

When I found out that my mom was homophobic, I asked her what were her thoughts, ideas and opinions about gay/lesbian people. Once she started reflecting on her own stuff, she gained a new perspective for herself.
Possibly you could try to help your parents in a similar way? - not so much from a place of frustration or judgment, just curious as to where they are coming from.

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TLS makes an excellent point, though. Is there a part of you that decides who does and does not "deserve" your best language/grammar? That is, did you do a version of discrimination and decide that LSers can make do with whatever crappy grammar and punctuation you feel like throwing at us?

Not that I care...but since you posted about the discriminatory practices of others, IMO, it behooves you to also look at how you may be doing the same thing in your own life. It looks very different, but it's the basically the same thing, yes?

[Tayla]

far left and far right opinions and beliefs are alive and well. Your parents may well have that narrow concept, but on other matters maybe they have some valid and wise ways too. You acknowledge they are in ways prejudice and that is for them to come to terms with, you needn't buy into their thinking.