[KismetGirl]

Ok, so, if you had said his parents refused to help in a dire situation (eg- you didnt have enough for food, were homeless, had grandchildren of theirs you couldnt feed) it would still be your responsibility, but it would be cruel of them not to help.

In this situation, while they should be able to help you out, it is a fine line because it isnt an emergency and it technically isn't their problem that you guys got married really young and are having financial problems. The fact that you say you are so young that you both don't have a reasonable credit history makes me think you got married REALLY bloody young, as I am 27 and I just recently stopped getting all those "insufficient credit history length" replies to things. My credit was always perfect, never missed a payment in my life, and have had credit cards since I was 18 years old so now nearly ten years later that's starting not to be an issue. So you guys must be hella young, and Im guessing there's a good chance his parents are thiking you shouldnt have gotten married so young to begin with if you couldnt really support each other?

Dont know, I am just speculating.

People are all very different. My mother is like your parents are -- she would sell her own kidneys to help me and my siblings pay for things if she could, but she, like your parents are broke. On the other hand, I find often that the "rich" parents think they are teaching their kids a lesson in earning money by being "stricter" about doling out cash and financial assistance, which is maybe what his parent are doing.

So yes, while they could be nicer, maybe they think that it isnt an emergency and that you should be more careful with your money. I paid too much for a spontaneous crap car when I first bought one on my own and I was the one stuck with paying it off and all the massive amounts of car repairs that have come along the way. hey, at least you have a husband to help you....I'm quite single and have been paying for everything, going to school and working my whole adult life on my own, with very minimal help from my parents who are just not in a financial position to help me.

That said....his dad did cosign with you guys once, and perhaps he saw your rash purchase as one of irresponsibility. Perhaps they want to see you make some repsonsible decisions and get on your feet on your own.

if it ever got to a point where you were absolutely going to become destitute and they still didnt want to help, then I'd say they were huge ass*oles, but at this point, they are just stingy with their money, which doesn't make them bad people , though perhaps not as kindhearted on an obvious level as your parents.

It's kind of irrelevant how much money they have to be honest....I have some rich relatives who have never given me a dime in my life. Do I think they could afford it? Of course. Are they under obligation to? No, not really I guess. If i was rich I'd be giving money to all my relatives if they needed it becasue that's how I am, but not everyone is like that and unfortunately they do have a right to do so. Hopefully if you can show them you guys are able to take care of your own expenses and be fiscally responsible (which doesnt just mean scraping by, I guess, perhaps they want to see that you are making smart money decisions), then perhaps they will be more helpful in the future. For instance, my sister chose to drop of of college, move to another state with her loser boyfriend (and I say this lightly...he was 30 with no job, education, and a one year old from a prior relationship he didn take care of). So my sister was living paycheck to paycheck, waitressing, and my mother was CONSTANTLY bailing her out, helping her with bills she coultn cover, paying for her cell phone bill, things like that, and in reality, my sister did it to herself. She didnt HAVE to live in another state with her boyfriend and drop out of college to do what she's doing, but she did, and that's her choice, and me and my family love her and if she ever was in a dangerous situation or was risking being homeless or starving we would absolutely take her in, but if she chooses to live where she's living there's no reason my mother shoul dhave to keep bailing her out, helping with insurance payments, etc. Shes an adult and she made her decisions.

Anyway, good luck with your stuff, hopefully things will work out. I know how hard it is to keep things in check, but hey, at least you have a husband to help you out? ;-) Some of us are all on our own!