[drake7]

My wife and I have been married eight years. After the first two years I realized it wasn't going to work and I told her we needed to get a divorce. She became very upset, asked me to give her another chance and we both planned to go to counselling; I fooled myself into believing I was happy. Three years after this my wife was diagnosed with cancer.

She can no longer work and receives disability from Social Security. I work full time and her health care is taken care of by my insurance. She still has cancer but after three years of treatment it is inactive. I am not happy being married to her; among other things I would like to have children but she cannot have them.

I love her as a friend but not as a wife. I don't plan on abandoning her while she is ill, but at the same time her doctor tells her she won't get any worse- or any better. He says she could stay on her current treatment and be fine for the next ten or fifteen years. I am thirty-eight years old now, and while I am very healthy and handsome I don't look forward to the prospect of being between forty-eight and fifty-three and trying to get remarried and have kids at that age.

Has anyone been in a position similar to this or know anyone that has? I don't have any ill feelings towards my wife, I would be perfectly happy if she were all better and we could just go our own separate ways, but as it is her health makes things very problematic. Any advice or insights on the matter would be appreciated.