[simon30]

Hi everyone,
I have a serious problem going on for over a year now and I would like to end it.
I am 36 years old, about a year and a half ago my childhood friend found my number and visited me, I had not seen her in over 17 years at that point.

After a few minutes over the phone I gave her my address and she came over, she started telling me that she was in an abusive relationship for 7 years and still going. she told me her boyfriend is a drunk and he verbally abuses her and at times he's physically abused her as well, both of her parents have long been dead and she had no friends left in her life because of this man (according to her) I told her I'm always here for her.

a week went by and she called me and asked if she could come over because he was coming home and he was really mad, she didnt want to be there when he got home because he was drunk, I told her come on over, it wouldnt be a problem.

well this started happening often and I realized that not only is her boyfriend a drunk but so is she, a few months went by and she lost her job, her boyfriend was furious mad about something and in a drunk fit kicked her out of his apartment, ofcourse she ran to me for a place to live for a few weeks until she found a new job and place to live, she told me he's kicked her out many times and she would have to sleep in her car and once even in a womens shelter.

she stayed with me and a month later we both fell in love hard, I realized the woman was not only an alcoholic but also heavily addicted to cocaine, I helped get her off the coke addiction in less than a few months, but I could never beat the alcohol part of her problem with her, she got a few jobs but always ended up losing them within a week or two.

I am really insanely in love with her, I dont want to give up on her, not even for a second.
my problem is after 8 months of us having an intense relationship, I found out she was still seeing her ex, later by spying on her yahoo chats I found out that she told him that she was living with me and I was paying her bills but it was completely platonic, she was trying to get him to take her back.

I immediately called him since I didnt want to be anyones fool and told him that she's been lying to him and we were in a relationship and having sex 3 times a night, it got him so mad he told her never to talk to him again.

a month later she was able to coax him to take her back, after 3 days she came back to me claiming she was in love with me.

this has happened 4 times in the past year and a half, she goes back to the abusive ex, and within 2 weeks starts sending me emails of how she cant sleep at night without me, cant eat, and wants to come over and make love, and right after that shes moved back in.

this past memorial day weekend she told me she was going to the beach with her 2 children and their grandparents, I found out it was a lie and she took them to his apartment to discuss her going back with him again.
I practically had to interrogate her to get her to admit the truth.

I asked her who do you want to be with, me or him and she said him, I helped her pack her car with her belongings and sent her on her way, now 3 days later she calles me, I preteneded to be cold and I feel that this cycle is going to start all over again.

Problem is I am in love with her, I dont want to lose her and I know she'll come back but I dont want to do this for the rest of my life with this woman.

anyone here been through something similar and been able to get the woman to stop the ping pong?