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Originally Posted by Tayla
It is my strong belief that abuse is conditioned from childhood on...the message to some of us is clear.....Others have a right to harm us..parents allowed to smack ,spank,shove, slam
teachers allowed to isolate and berate you in front of classmates,
officers-shoving you , anyone of authority ...because they are the elders. Violence begets violence. Its a learned behavior and one that needs to cease. It starts with one voice, and many positive changes in behaviors and attitude.
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This is probably true most of the time but I can tell you for a fact that I didn't come from an abusive home and yet I married an abusive man. It makes no sense to me as to why I did that. I've pondered this for a long time and the only thing I can figure is that because I was raised in such a happy home, I tend to be very naive about people and don't realize that some people just simply have rotten natures. This was probably my only saving grace, though, and why I left him as quickly as I did.
Still, the thing I remember the most is that despite the many, many years of my childhood and adulthood that I had of non-abuse (I was 38 when I married the abuser), I was amazed at how quickly I 'forgot' that frame-of-reference while I was in that horrible relationship. I remember having to remind myself of what life was really like beyond that time and space because he all but destroyed it inside my head.
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