[lazlow99]

I've been in the US for a month or so now working (I'm 20 btw). I know my parents have been having problems, and even though I no longer live at home I've noticed this and its affected me. My dad has flown out to see me, and he's been acting strange, snapping at me over little things and hinting that he and my mum have not been spending enough time with each other.

I noticed by accident that he was receiving long texts from another woman, so when he went for a shower and left his phone I checked it and found his inbox and sent empty except for one text from this woman and one sent one to my mum just chatting about the holiday. The text from the woman said something like ''I'm glad you called...you're out of sight but not out of mind...had lots of time to think too...can't and don't want to forget you x.'' I forwarded it to myself and saved the womans number to my phone.

I had a feeling something was up but I didn't expect this. They've had a pretty volatile relationship in the past but I thought they were getting better. I'm pretty sure neither cheated while I was at home, and I know my mum would never do it. My dad has suffered from depression and used to take it out on me and still does. We don't have a great relationship and I am closer to my mum and I think he makes her unhappy, and I know he made me very unhappy when I was younger.

I want to tell my mum about the text and confront him when I get home, and also call this woman. I think she deserves to know and my dad is a total coward and a **** for doing this.

Other than my friends theres no one else I can really talk to about this. Like I said I'm an adult now, I can deal with this but I've never been in a situation like this before.

Any advice?