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hi my mother became extremely controlling due to my father controlling her for so many years and when he died and i suffered with poor emotional health she overtook my life She became very dominant over my family but my children are leaving home now and i can see things a lot more clearly.She was weak and didn't have the strength to support my emotional issues even though she was quick to criticise and enjoy the best of my children. The thing is i don't want to be bitter or angry and i know now what is done is done but to be honest i find being in her company very difficult. I only see her because i pity her really if i'm honest however really all i want to do is to be really be able to speak to her like another human being , like i can to my children . I would love to be able to ask her the reasons why she has done what's she's done and what she thinks of her behaviour now but whenever i've ever expressed myself in the past she has become aggressive or hysterical. I suppose i want some payback,how can she live with herself without counselling or dealing with it at all when all i seem to do is deal with it. But then she became religious which seems to have absolved all her guilt without her ever having to change Any feedback would be appreciated. Thanks