[amaysngrace]

My BF is an alcoholic. In January he said he was sober for two weeks straight. I was very proud of him for going to AA and for not drinking.

He lied to me though. He was drinking and just never told me. He said he would wait until just around bedtime and slam two beers down and then go to bed.

Now he says he's sober again. I kind of believe but kind of don't. He tells me now about how he lied then but this time it's been twelve days and this time is for real.

I want to believe him but I'm having a hard time with it. Do I act like I believe him? Express it that I think maybe he's lying or what?

I don't want to piss on his parade if he did indeed quit. I don't want to seem like I don't believe him. But in a way I don't believe him so acting all happy and proud of him isn't being true to me.

The only difference this time with the other times he supposedly quit drinking is he told his parents he's an alcoholic. His dad battled the disease and had to do detox just to get sober. His dad got DTs from drinking. But he only did rehab for maybe two or three days and once he sobered up he stayed dry five or six years later to this day.

He has his dad's support this time. So maybe it's for real? Still I don't know if he's lying because I'm not there right before bedtime so I have no way to know.

Do I express my concerns or what? Or just keep buying into what could be a lie? How am I suppose to know?

This has taken a hit to my trust of him. I know it probably shouldn't because I understand he was embarrassed of himself but still he lied to me.

I'm having a hard time with that.