[Embee]

I broke up with someone in December who was commitment phobic. We met via Match.com. He new from my profile that I was marriage minded and after five wonderful months together, slammed it on me that he didn't know about a future together and that he had really strong feelings for me, but felt confused. He was the one that brought up the "commitment" question and I answered it by telling him that I couldn't be with someone who felt so ambivalent about our relationship.

Now I feel totally gunshy about dating again. I want to weed out the sick and the weak, but I don't want to end up alienating a great guy by slamming it on him on the first date, that, "Hey, if you aren't looking for a wife, just run the hell away right now."

My question is when you begin to date someone, when do you bring this stuff up? I know it must be situational, but I really want to protect myself this time around.