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HI to all

I need advice.

We with husband have been married for 10 months now. I left my country (I'm a foreigner), my job, my family to marry a man I love and stay with him. Some months ago my husband lost his work. I still don't work here as I have no permit and law of this country dose not allow me to work for some years but I'm still trying to find something for me and keep myself busy.

My husband has an opportunity to get a contract job for 3 years and work away from home. I said to him that I would like to follow him as I don't have many friends here still I don't have permanent job I don't have children and I'm a very family type woman. But my husband dose not agree. He said somebody has to take care of the house and he dose not want to move there permanently. So he will come once a week or once in two weeks home or I can live one week with him one week at home. We live together with his aunty which is like his mother. She is not so young 67. And I asked him what if you were not married would your aunty stay in the house and take care of it ? He said : "Yes". So why can't we now live together and aunty will take care of the house?

But my husband dose not understand me and he said I don't want him to get job and it was not easy to get this contract. I don't mind him to work there but I don't want to stay without him because I think it dose not make sence.

Help me please to understand what is wrong here