[win1234]

Hello there guys,

Well, a few months ago I posted a topic called relationship doubts, and I thought I would let you guys know what happened, for I have learned alot.

In the beginning of January, I ended the relationship. It was a very difficult decision, but now I can see that it was the right move.

We are keeping in touch as friends, but we have both now moved on to different relationships, and I am glad to know that we are both happier.

Never stay in a relationship just for the sake of not being alone without a partner, or to prevent the other partner from feeling hurt, or because its convenient, or your scared that you might not find anyone else.

There is someone out there for everyone.

The most important thing I have learned is that if you enter the realm of love nothing is certain, and one has to accept that for the joy there is in love, there is also the possibility of pain, and you only have control over yourself in a relationship, but you will never have control over the other person or love itself - therefor you will never be able to eliminate the possibility of pain.

Its not to say that one will never find the partner to spend the rest of your life with. This is something we all hope for, and it would be nice never to have a broken heart.....its more a case of being aware that people change and grow, sometimes closer, other times further apart....and like nature, unpredictable things can happen in love.

When its good - experience it and enjoy it and be glad and cherish it to its fullest, for as easy and unexpectedly that love can enter your life, it can just as easily slip away........... and all to often, there is nothing you can do to stop this.

This is also the reason to maintain an independant aspect to your life, and ensure your life does not evolve solely around your partner. A partner is there to compliment your life, but not to be your life, for if they leave your life, you will feel like you are left with nothing.

I am very happy we did not end on bad terms and that I have not lost a friend, so if anything I may have lost in love, but I have won in friendship

From W.