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I have been dating my girlfriend for about 2 yrs now. When I met her I found out that she was struggling with a drug problem which she had kept hidden in the beginning. I am a business owner who has never had any problems with drugs unless you count inhaling a couple of times in college.

In the beginning, we had what seemed to be a blossoming relationship. Needless to say the last 1 1/2 years have been hell. Between her ex BF who stole numerous things and jumped me and the drug addicts that she chose to hang out with it was a constant struggle trying to get things to where we could be a true couple.

Finally a blessing and she ended up in jail which forced her to detox and she says she wants to stay clean. She has been going to meetings and is living in a halfway house. I understand her need for recovery and in my heart I want her clean and sober. The problem I have and maybe it is with me is that she seems to have replaced the drugs with the program and still does not have time for our relationship. She makes plans and constantly breaks them which obviously upsets me and then she blames her relapse on me.

I admit that this is uncharted waters for me. It seems like I can not even ask her questions trying to understand or deal with things without her getting angry. I tried to ask her if us having a healthy relationship could be good for her recovery and she refused to answer. Does anyone out there have any advice for me? I do love her and I guess if leaving her is best for her then that is what I am prepared to do.