[Sweetluvmel]

Hey everone. Any advice would be greatly appreciated here...This guy I dated for two months off (J) and on (he dumped me because he got scared then saw me again and said he missed me) stopped calling me out of the blue. Anyhow, it hurt and one night I went out to the bars with my friends and he was there. I didn't even recognize him.. he shaved his head and just looked different. He came right up to me (I didn't approach him) and asked how I was he looked kind of down and said he was doing alright. He left for the bathroom and then when he came back completely ran around me like he was avoiding me. I, being drunk and stupid, started flirting with this hot guy and danced with him and made out with him. Well (J) started flirting with a few girls trying to dance with them and all. I finally got the nerve went up to him and asked why he didn't call me! He was just like, I am so sorry (he apologized like 10 times) and he wanted to call me so bad but he got scared, said he didn't want to hurt my feelings. He can't hang out with me anymore and that he thinks I'm a wonderful and gorgeous girl and he said that he was an a**hole for what he did and he understands if I hate him. I was shocked that he said this to me and hurt because I can't hate him I care about him and it seems like he never cared... Then he points to his head and says, I am seriously f*ed up melissa really I can't help it and that I'm not emotionally stable yet ( i know he's still not over his ex that he dated for 2 and a half years).. I asked him if there was another girl he said no, I asked him if it was me he said no.. he just can't be with me. Basically i thought he was a great guy and I told him that I wanted to just be friends, that is all I wanted and he can't even do that! Why doesn't he want to be friends? I don't understand this at all. If he wasn't interested he should of just told me! Everyone says he does care about me but he has alot of problems and that is why and I should just let him go. He left things at "I'll talk to you later..." and then he perceded to try to hit on other girls in front of me.. was he just trying to make me jealous? It did work.. and I have never heard a guy say this before! Is it just an excuse or is he really unbalanced? ( By the way I am 21 he's 22) I do miss him alot...