[Kat]

To cut a long story short, I was in a relationship which turned violent and abusive. I left it only to find out a week later I was pregnant. I tried to work it out but it only got more violent.

My daughter was born and 6mths later I met a wonderful man Who we have been with ever since.

Here lies the problem.

After my daughter was born her 'father' has seen her around 12 times, for no more than 2 hours each time. The last time he saw her was Sept 7th 2002. He has been taking me to court back and forth and he has started up the second court proceedings (since the first lot he started got finalised due to the fact he never turned up to court).

I was informed by his lawyers that he wants to see his daughter. When we were talking about the times which were available they said 'Well we are running out of time for him to see her before the next court appearance's That made me FURIOUS!!! It wasn't that he wanted to see his precious daughter, but he wanted to look good for the courts

I have just spend around 20mins on the phone with my mum asking if I have told my daughter about the visit (which is next Saturday). I said that I haven't and that she doesn't need to know anything more than she is going to a place where there will be lots of kids to play with (he can only see her in a supervised environment). She got on my back about how she needs to know who he is and that she will get there, he will call himself her dad and she will get upset because he isn't her 'dad' my partner is (even thought she doesn't call him dad).

He is wanted in this state and I plan on making the police aware of his presence and hopefully he will come and get arrested.

But what do I tell her? She is three, I don't think she needs to know anything about that 'thing' at all. No doubt he will be telling her things which are untrue like 'I am your daddy' and 'I missed you, your mum wouldn't let me see you'.

I was find with it and was going to take it as it comes, however now my mother has got me all worked up. I don't want my daughter to be hurt, to be lied to, to feel as if *I* lied to her...

What do I do? What do I tell her?

The last person I want to be hurt is my baby girl and yet all I see is her in tears because of some god awful man who feels he can come in and out of a little girls life when it suits him and tear her world upside down because he doesn't think things should be that way