[reservoirdog1]

Delia -- A bit of background to answer your question. I moved out on November 1. On Halloween, I was at a party and met a woman I'd known socially for years. One thing led to another, and we wound up back at her place. However, I begged off -- TBXW and I made an agreement when we decided to separate that neither of us would date or sleep with anybody else while we were still under the same roof. I had one more day to go, so I asked this woman if we could delay till the following evening (first night in my new place). She was OK with that, sparks flew that next evening, and I got to leave the marital home knowing that I'd kept my word and behaved honourably right up to the end.

Anyway, I specifically told this woman that I didn't want a relationship, which was true... it was too soon, obviously, and in any case I didn't want one with her particularly. Neither did she. It basically turned into a few weeks of sex and hanging out together. That was pretty transparently a rebound, and I recognized it as such while I was in the midst of it. To some degree, it was a bit of a f*ck-you to TBXW -- "you had a bunch of affairs during the marriage, so look at me... first night in my own place and I get laid."

So, the point is, I knew the fling with her was a rebound from the start, but we were both OK with that. There was no commitment, and no expectation of anything long-term, serious or exclusive.

With the woman I'm seeing now, we're taking it pretty slow, physically. We've seen each other every day since Christmas, but haven't slept together. I guess I figure that, if it was a rebound, I wouldn't be investing this much time and effort into it. Also, I actually have feelings for this girl.

Hope this helps!