I remarried last summer to a woman with a 3 year-old son. Her son's father is an alcoholic and has very little to do with his son (he never keeps him at his house because of his drinking). The marriage has been difficult for both of us as she has had to relocate 2 hours away from her family and I had been single for 14 years.
My problem: My wife continues to keep in phone contact with her ex., especially when we are fighting. She admits to calling him whenever we fight and says she just needs someone to talk to. She even called him on the day of our wedding. We separated briefly 2 months after our marriage and cell phone records show that she was in frequent contact with him during that time. I confronted her on all this and she agreed that she should stop calling him so much. She did cease calling him for several weeks but is now back to calling him 2-3 times a week or more. We are getting along fine but I am still not comfortable with the situation. I also overheard a phone conversation with him 2 months ago in which she asked him if he still thinks about her and misses her (he replied yes to both).
My question: Am I paranoid in my concerns over my wife's relationship with her ex? Should I demand that she scale back her contact with her ex?
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