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What do to when you know you lost the right one?
Hello everyone and thanks for reading. This is my first time posting so bare with me.. Well this is the situation.. I'm 27 and my ex-girlfriend is 24. She broke up with me 4 months ago because to be honest I think she got fed up with us fighting alot lately. We were together for about 2 years and 8 months, and we lived together and had 3 pets together, 1 dog and 2 cats. Anyways she broke up with me saying that we argued too much and that she didn't believe me when I would tell her that I love her. Well she said she belives me when I say I love you but doesn't think I'm "In Love" with her. We would argue about all the little things.Mainly my fault on alot of issues. Ever since we started going out she was head over heals for me. She loved me to the fullest and loved my family as well. She would mention on how much she wanted to marry me and have my children, etc... To be honest I never showed her how much I loved her as much as I should have. I mean I Love her and did show her that but I admit not as much as I should have. The thing is that I've never grown past my college years. I was a popular guy in school in all the sports and went to all the parties and had my fair share of woman, alot were one night stands mind you but anyways.. I've always thought about what my friends would say about BUBBA growing up and in a serious relationship and I guess that is why I was always a commitment phobic even though I was with her for almost 3 years. I still wanted to hang out with my friends because I still have alot of them from high school and party and stuff. The thing is she was never an outgoing girl. She wasn't that popular in school and when we were together we lived in my hometown which is a big city and her only 3 friends were back where she grew up about a 2 hour drive away. So I felt like she always depended on me and made me feel bad when some nights I wanted to go out with my buddies.
So about the break up.. About a week before we broke up she was chatting on line alot and met a guy there. 3 weeks later she is dating this guy after our break up and it really hurt me. The first month of our break up I was the one begging her back and all but then stopped after a month. Then she kept calling me about once a week or so after that to meet up for coffee or lunch. I at that point was trying to do the No Contact thing to get over her and try to win her back. But the thing is that she has still been dating this guy since 2 weeks after our break up. So last month her new boyfriend gave her an ultimatum.. It was either stop talking to me or they are done.. She told me what he said and said she wasn't sure what she wanted to do. I told her that I still loved her and said that it was her choice on what to do. She told me that she realizes that I still love her but she can't say the same for me... That hurt... Even though I still think this is a rebound relationship it still hurt to hear her say that she doesn't love me anymore?? That night she told me that I told her that she never has to speak to me again to please here new boyfriend and his ultimatum and that is what she has done I guess. It's been 1 month since I've seen or spoken to her. My question is..What should I do now when I know that I truly love her and still believe she loves me? At least I think she still loves me after all we have been through together the last 3 years. I know she said that because she is with the new rebound guy, and to make matters worse I am with a rebound girl as well for the last 2 months or so. I feel bad and I know I should break off with this girl soon as It is not fair to her because I still think of my ex everyday. So the question is should I still hang onto hope that someday we will be together again or should I just let go?? It's so true what people say.. " You don't know what you have until it's gone.."
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