How can I rebuild my friendship after a two year dating relationship?

Koshizan

Hello,

I found this forum a few months ago and I have really enjoyed many of the posts and people.
On to my small problem....

Me and my then-girlfriend dated for about two or so years and it was a great relationship and both of us had fun. We ended up breaking up about three months ago. She was tired of dating and felt that we just werent right for each other.

Heres the problem....

We ended on great terms, both in agreement and both wanting to continue a great friendship that we have built over the years. I have read many posts about the above scenario but all of them basically say "Dont contact" "move on." However, i dont want to do that. I dont want to not make contact with her. I want to take a step back and have a great friendship again.

My frienship with her hasnt been destoryed but its not really good either. We both have been going through the process of switching from romatic interests to friends. Its a slow process but its been hard for me. She has started talking about dating other guys. Every time it gets brought up, it still sort of hurts. Not because i want to date her but because i am afriad of losing her because our friendship isnt really back to what it was before yet. I think that if she gets involved with another guy, she will just shift directions and forget about our friendship. Im truly just afraid of losing her as a friend.

So my question is, how do you rebuild a friendship after dating for a long period of time? I am willing to put in the work, and i know she is as well...i just have a few fears(which could be unfounded anyways).

Again, to clarify...I agree we are not meant for each other romantically but we were the greatest of friends and i want to try and get that back.

Thanks for listening =p
TJ